TILB:Hello Aunty,
I have a big problem and I dont know what to do about it. I met my husband last year march and we have been going strong. He proposed to me around november when he came back to Nigeria for his fathers burial. he came and met my parents to declare his interest and my father welcomed him. He engaged my before he left and assured that that he will come back by august this year to start preparations for our trad and white wedding.
I found out I was pregnant around february and i told him. He was happy and asked me to keep it but since we havent done any thing, i asked him to come home and do trad before my stomach will start growing because my father will kill me if he found out I was pregnant. He said that he cant leave holland until August as his paper expired around march. I could only confide in my mum and she told me to tell him to arrange his people down here and send money for the trad that we can arrange it with his people even in his absence. She said that with trad done, she can handle my father once we do the trad. she said that was the only option we have because my stomach was already begining to show because I am naturally slim. I cried myself to sleep that day . i told him and he agree to send his people. I have been hearing of people who do such things only on social media. I didnt know i am the next. How can i do my traditional marriage and be dancing with enlarge picture. The shame will kill me and it means I cant even invite my friend or they will finish me. I am so sad right now and i dont know what to do.
Wedding an absentee man is quite common these days. You took your decision when you opened your legs and got pregnant for him. You have to bear it and get it over with. You dont need to invite much people just a few that will understand. Just tell the others that you want a small wedding. People will only talk for a few weeks and forget it. As you can see from the photos I attached, Its not a new thing and you are not the first neither will you be the last. Its not so bad after-all
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